i am a girl

Lately I've been very reflective of the appropriate sequences in life. You know, grow up, go to school, fall in love, get married, and then have kids. In the past month, I've been asked several times about my "relationship status". And I simply tell them that I'm in no rush, because I've been inspired by some pretty amazing women....

I've met some amazing women who have happened to live their lives a little out of sequence. Let's just say they were blessed with little bundles a little sooner than anticipated. Suddenly their responsibities and daily activites had changed completely. Priorities changed from work and school, to bills and bed-time stories. But their biggest adjustment is how their lives have been put on hold for until their children have grown. Grown enough to spoon feed and bathe themselves, at least. What astounds me is how they've grow up faster than anyone should have to.

I am rambling about this because us girls have a tendency to "panic". Panic about being in a relationship. This isn't a man-hating speech, or even a pro-abstinence promotion. This is just me sharing feelings about how girls sometimes take themselves for granted.

Girls, think of your strengths. How many positive things in your life have your strengths brought you? Whether it's sports, writing, acting, whatever... at one point or another your gifts have gained rewards in your life. They could have come in the form of a medal, good grades, or even a simple pat on the back. In our youth, developing aptitude can be more rewarding than being in a relationship.

Sometimes I feel like girls forget that they have strengths, and look for recognition from the opposite sex in ways that the media portrays as "the only way". I'm talking about, dumbing down, revealing clothing, the works. Personally, I think when girls act this way they cheat themselves out of great opportunites. Like opportunities for personal growth.

A boyfriend is a wonderful and natural thing. It's also very special and important in normal life. But it's nothing to stress over. Ladies, we are busy people, we don't have time to fix the world and flatter guys at the same time. Let them flatter you. Wise and self-confident girls stand out. If they are worth your time, they will be smart to pick out such traits. Think of it this way, you've only got so much time before you've got that magical band of gold on your finger. It won't hurt to spend a few years to discover as much of yourself as you can, before you have to share the next 65 years with that very special someone, and maybe several special little ones too.