suffering, although largely ego-created, is in the end also ego-destructive. it is the fire in which the ego burns itself up.

when you don't play roles, your actions have far greater power. you are totally focused on the situation. you become one with it. you are most powerful, most effective, when you are completely yourself. you don't have to do anything to be yourself. you are yourself already. just stop adding unnecessary baggage to who you already are.

if you can be absolutely comfortable with not knowing who you are, then what's left is who you are - the Being behind the human, a field of pure potentiality rather than something that is already defined.

give up defining yourself - to yourself and others. you will come to life. and don't be concerned with how others define you. when they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it's their problem.

"i am not enough" is wrong. you can't be more than you are because underneath your physical and psychological form you are one with life itself, one with being. in essence, you are neither inferior or superior to anyone. true self-esteem and true humility arise out of that realization, and they are one and the same.

recognize suffering as suffering. don't look upon it as the only appropriate response in any given situation. the ego in its blindness is incapable of seeing the suffering it inflicts on itself and others. unhappiness is an ego-created mental-emotional disease that has reached epidemic proportions.

the ego can't distinguish between a situation and its interpretation of and reaction to that situation. what is dreadful is your reaction to a situation, your inner resistance to it, and the emotion that's created by that inner resistance.

there is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.

suffering or negativity is often misperceived by the ego as pleasure because up to a point the ego strengthens itself through it.

whenever you're in a negative state, there's something in you that wants the negativity, that perceives it as pleasurable, or that believes it will get you what you want.

yield. let go. rest in the comfort of peace and inner stillness that come with surrender. rest in god.

whenever there's negativity in you, if you can be aware at that moment that there is something in you that takes pleasure in it or believes it has a useful purpose, you are becoming aware of the ego directly. the moment this happens, your identity has shifted from ego to awareness. this means the ego is shrinking and awareness is growing.

if in the midst of negativity you realize "at this moment i am creating suffering for myself" it will be enough to raise you above the limitations of conditioned egoic states and reactions. it will open up infinite possibilities which come to you when there is awareness - other vastly more intelligent ways of dealing with any situation. you will be free to let go of your unhappiness the moment you recognize it as unintelligent. negativity is not intelligent. it is always of the ego.

intelligence sees the larger whole in which all things are connected. the ego, on the other hand, sees things as separate, and is short-sighted.

whatever is attained through egoic means is short-lived and always turns out to be eventually self-defeating. the ego divides; intelligence includes.